Can A True Christian Be Addicted To Porn?

Everyone is a moon and has a dark side which he never shows to anybody. -Mark Twain

Would you ever consider a lying murderous adulterer someone who would be classified as a ‘man after God’s own heart’?

It’s hard to believe that the man who penned the words…

“One thing have I asked of the LORD,
that will I seek after:
that I may dwell in the house of the LORD
all the days of my life,
to gaze upon the beauty of the LORD
and to inquire in his temple.”
(Psalm 27:4 ESV)

Would later be the one writing:

“Deliver me from bloodguiltiness, O God,
O God of my salvation…”
(Psalm 51:14 ESV)

How is that possible?

How did a man of such devotion and love for the Lord end up committing the most contemptible crimes imaginable?

Where Sin Abounded

To quote Relient K in ‘Be My Escape‘…”The beauty of grace is that it makes life unfair.”

When everything natural inside of us screams ‘impossible!’, God’s rich grace found in the cross of Christ provides ground for forgiveness.

The beauty and mind-blowing nature of grace says that even the chief of sinners can be saved (1 Timothy 3:15), and where sin increases, grace will abound all the more (Romans 5:20).

Now of course this doesn’t give us the liberty to just sin as we please, as Romans 6 makes it clear that we are now dead to sin.

But although we are dead to sin — not continuing in sin and abusing God’s grace — we still have a war on our hands…a war with the flesh that will never end as long as we inhabit this body of sin.

Paul makes this struggle clear in multiple letters:

“So I find it to be a law that when I want to do right, evil lies close at hand.” (Romans 7:21 ESV)

“For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do.” (Galatians 5:17 ESV)

And even though you may believe your sins were paid for in full when Christ gave himself for you on that cross, the reality is that for many young Christian men the endless struggle against the lusts of the flesh (porn addiction included) is far too real.

My First Exposure

I was roughly 12-years-old when I first became aware of ‘sexual temptation.’

I distinctly remember when I began to notice the scantily clad women in my surrounding media, even in what were supposed to be the most harmless of magazines and publications. Like most young boys, with my curiosity it did not take long for me to discover porn from that point. I had accessible (dial-up) internet and a few evenings of privacy that allowed me to really delve deeper into what was so enticing and destructive.

At that age I couldn’t understand fully the damage that was happening; all I could really understand was that watching porn was more intense and fulfilling than a lingerie or swimsuit catalogue. While the addiction wasn’t severe or immediate, that early exposure served as fuel to a much more powerful addiction in my late teens and early twenties.

Addiction Escalates

When I reached early adulthood, I established a certain idea of what sexuality was. This understanding came from my experiences of watching porn contrasted with what I was taught in my local church. I knew what I was doing was bad, but I just couldn’t seem to stop myself.

I would watch porn for its enticing nature and for the level of stimulation it offered and then feel awful because I knew that I wasn’t living a life God had set out for me. A cycle of action formed: I would pray and read verses about purity to stave off cravings, it would last for a little while, then I would relapse and binge watch. Without fail, I would always find my way back to porn and it killed me.

Frustration Ensues

“Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, to make you obey its passions.” (Romans 6:12 ESV)

At this point, I had started to try anything to just be able to stop. I read, listened and tried practically everything. I read every young man’s battle, went through recovery training courses and programs, listened to so many sermons on purity, sexual immorality and pornography, tried the weird breathing and mind exercises, tried getting out more, installed the porn blockers on my computer and iPhone and had accountability partners.

But no matter what I bought, listened to and read, everything seemed to say the same thing when it came to porn addiction:

“Read and pray more, tell your pastor or a friend, install the latest porn blocker on your computer, get away from the internet, try harder, count the days, keep the computer in the living room…”

But no matter what I tried, none of those things seemed to work.

I remember one afternoon driving along the highway, pounding the steering wheel and screaming out to the Lord, with tears streaming down my face, asking Him to take this away from me. I was so tired and ashamed because I had just relapsed again that day, and I was left without any idea what to do about it.

I knew that a relationship wouldn’t change anything, and the last thing I wanted to do was be married to a beautiful godly woman and still be addicted to porn.

What I needed was something that I could do right then and there that would drastically change my predisposition.

Answers To Prayer

Unfortunately, that prayer didn’t get answered for over a year and a half later, but since then I’ve never been happier. To not have the guilt and bonds of porn gripping my mind and my heart and being able to freely be on the internet and not have anxiety over my actions. Having complete control of myself and my life.

After struggling endlessly with porn and usually losing to it more often than not, finally overcoming it was incredible. I don’t remember being able to go without porn and masturbation for more than 3-4 days, and now I don’t even remember the last time I looked at porn.

I don’t have a porn filter on my computer anymore, I don’t worry about staying on the computer late at night, and I’m able to read and be fruitful for God with a clear conscience.

It’s Worth It

To not have the guilt and shackles of porn gripping your mind and your heart, to not objectify women walking down the street or feeling so perverted any time a cute girl’s picture pops up on your facebook news feed is something worth fighting for.

I’m not sure if I was just in the right frame of mind or had the right amount of determination or a good reason to quit, but the number one thing that helped me overcoming this addiction was a plan.

Something that told me what to do and when.

Knowing the first step to take, and then what to do after that — how to properly handle cravings and what I needed to do if I thought I was relapsing.

The Next Step

“…that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor”
(1 Thessalonians 4:4 ESV)

If you want the battleplan that I used to help overcome my addiction, it’s 100% free, just click here.

As unfortunate as it is, the struggle with porn addiction even among ‘true Christians’ is far too real. If you’re desperately trying to live a life of purity but can’t seem to shake of the shackles that hold you, don’t let porn keep taking you down it’s destructive path.

6 Comments

  1. I have a similar story to yours being that I got hooked on pornography at 11 and was raised in the church hearing that this would be a struggle for life from older men in the church. They encouraged us youth to get an internet filter and an accountability partner, but it never worked for any of us. It was just a pity party between a bunch of guys. The real issue I realized that I had had was that I wasn’t accountable to God. I wasn’t having freedom from pornography because I had never been freed from my sin. Thanks to men who weren’t afraid to preach the truth, the Lord showed me that I was lost, but saved me that night. I would encourage you to watch this video… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5i8NlhLXjA4
    I want to encourage you see that the mass majority of people in church who are enslaved to pornography are not born again. They must be regenerated by the power of the Holy Spirit. I’m not saying that a truly born again person couldn’t err in this area, but it cannot become acceptable thought that the majority of professing believers who are enslaved to this are truly saved. Would we give a “christian” man the benefit of the doubt regarding his professed belief in Jesus Christ, if he only slipped up and went to the strip club a few times a week, month, or let alone a year? Not at all. We must call men to examine their hearts to see if they’ve ever truly trusted in Christ. Thanks.

  2. Hey Mark, thanks for your comments.

    Loved the video, I’m a big fan of Paul Washer’s teaching. I actually picked up Todd Friel’s course ‘slaying the lust dragon’ about two years ago, and I’m sad to say it didn’t free me from my addiction. Maybe other people are different but I feel like it was similar approach to what everyone else was preaching.

    I believe that the struggle with porn is real and dishonouring to our Lord, but just reading praying or being saved won’t automatically remove it from your life. I feel that it’s a deep addiction that affects all parts of our body much like smoking, drugs or alcohol.

    I believe Christ can free us from any and all sin and it’s affects, but that doesn’t mean we don’t go to the doctor when we’re seriously ill. There are legitimate physical and chemical dependencies that porn has created in our body that must be dealt with head on, and that’s what I found truly brought me permanent and lasting freedom.

    All the best bro and take care.

    Jordan

  3. Greetings purity project. I am a devoted follower of our Lord Jesus Christ and my main purpose is to humbly serve and bring glory to him.
    I have been addicted since seventh grade I have just now turned 20…..it make me sick to my inner core that I have this addiction and I feel the spirit grieving because of it. I stumbled upon this on Facebook and everything that I have read sounds great. I have read and prayed and wept so much asking for this to be lifted and the Lord does give me strength yet I continue. I am broke, not in college, I don’t have a job. Its only because of the grace of God I am not homeless. God has allowed these people I live with to have favor upon me. They are even helping me get my security license but before I get a job well that’s still weeks down the road. So I am asking for help please simple as that.
    Sincerely
    Thank you.

  4. I feel you man, this addiction is awful and I understand your situation is tough…

    Shoot me a message at [email protected] and I’ll be sure to take care of you.

    Jordan

  5. Thank you for your reply. I tried the link and it wouldn’t send me. I also tried the contact us support tab and it wont send me to anywhere. Not sure of the problem. Maybe an email I can contact. Thank you very much.

  6. Hello everyone spring blessings to all. I been additive to porn sinces 13 to now is a battle against lust. Yet not without hope. I grief the Holy Spirit and i feel for all too. Let’s stay strong in the Word because i learned the answer to this problem. Psalms 119 says how can a young person stay pure by obeying your Word.

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